tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3462787118668544142.post321150541400317544..comments2023-10-07T16:35:50.848+01:00Comments on wakeupandsmellthecoffee: Wishin' and Hopin'wakeupandsmellthecoffeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04602735058278146250noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3462787118668544142.post-11918623220904441272009-05-18T15:27:00.000+01:002009-05-18T15:27:00.000+01:00solomi558: isn't that sad though?
Dave: How kind ...solomi558: isn't that sad though?<br /><br />Dave: How kind of you to try to get beyond the facade! If you're single, Dave, I don't know why. Some lucky woman should be snapping you up. I turned into a bitch at work too and hated myself for it.<br /><br />J: Oooh, women! I went to an all-girl high school and couldn't wait to get out. Now, they're some of my best friends on Face Book. Which goes to show that we can change and grow out of it. On the other hand, I shuddered when I saw an old female boss was one of my Face Book buddy's friends. It takes all kinds, J., as you've pointed out.<br /><br />Kaycie: I think your case was unusual too. We women can't win. We're damned if we do and damned if we don't.<br /><br />fire byrd: I have some friends who work part time and find they're never anywhere full time, and that can be difficult too. But you're right about the envy bit.<br /><br />Mean Mom: Screaming in the workplace is just not on. So unprofessional and it brings the whole side down, if you know what I mean.<br /><br />Expat mum: We live parallel lives, you and I. Is your husband American? Have you seen that film Sliding Doors with Gwyneth Paltrow? I'll be visiting Chicago one day and my twin, you, will be going out one door as I go in.wakeupandsmellthecoffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04602735058278146250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3462787118668544142.post-92040703540990810032009-05-18T15:02:00.000+01:002009-05-18T15:02:00.000+01:00Agree with you on every point. I gave up work beca...Agree with you on every point. I gave up work because I just wasn't doing anything well. My husband was on a career trajectory and never at home, and I was exhausted. When he made partner at his firm, I found myself suddenly earning about a tenth of his salary so I stopped. I didn't feel like I had a choice, which caused some resentment at the time.<br />If I could warn women of one thing about "staying at home to be with the children" it's that you become responsible for EVERYTHING on the domestic front - food, laundry, bills, school stuff. You're not just "with the children". It's exhausting and you're usually doing it with at least one small child in tow.<br />Ah well...Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3462787118668544142.post-60313648450412897582009-05-16T19:07:00.000+01:002009-05-16T19:07:00.000+01:00My sentiments entirely! The last 3 managers I had ...My sentiments entirely! The last 3 managers I had were female and bullying. I saw some strong personalities in tears and in my last job I saw (and heard) the most amazing amount of shrieking, shouting, arguments and tantrums - all taking place between the manager and female staff. I was in the same position as you, when bringing up my children. If my family had been closer, I think I would maybe have worked part-time.Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3462787118668544142.post-28581046548203578062009-05-16T08:51:00.000+01:002009-05-16T08:51:00.000+01:00I think both sides of the divide probably envy the...I think both sides of the divide probably envy the other to some extent. And rather than admit that they bully as a way to deflect their envy.<br />Course the best place to be is work part time!!!!<br />xxFire Byrdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477692359400671374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3462787118668544142.post-44125340981875641412009-05-15T19:58:00.000+01:002009-05-15T19:58:00.000+01:00The best boss I ever had was a woman. I think tha...The best boss I ever had was a woman. I think that's unusual. I've done the working mom and the stay-at-home mom as well at different stages in my kids life. Neither one is easy, that's for sure.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05655321325607087357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3462787118668544142.post-79231970200512381722009-05-15T19:15:00.000+01:002009-05-15T19:15:00.000+01:00I think there is respect among specific women, but...I think there is respect among specific women, but among women in general...no. And that's pretty effing sad. I've experienced plenty of bullying from female colleagues and superiors.<br /><br />I've had a couple of great women bosses, but more often than not, they've been mean, nasty, backstabbing bitches. I've had some awful male bosses, and a couple good male bosses. Come to think of it, the adage that incompetence gets promoted is totally true, as I have had so few good bosses of either gender. At least this is one area where there seems to be gender parity.<br /><br />As for the working outside the home mom versus the stay at home mom? Let me fill you in on a little secret.... I work because I don't have what it takes to be a stay at home mom. Seriously. I would completely and totally suck at it. I marvel at women who can give themselves so completely. I marvel at how you do it every day. <br /><br />And you really want to see this backstabbing in action? Tag along with me to my college reunion...at a women's college. <br /><br />Sigh.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11118404372102239756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3462787118668544142.post-20484334596447681762009-05-15T17:33:00.000+01:002009-05-15T17:33:00.000+01:00I think you are right on each count - stay at home...I think you are right on each count - stay at home mother and women in the workplace. A long while ago, I got a tiny glimpse of what you are saying. Colleagues of mine used to get together frequently with all our families. One larger than life character always brought his quiet, say nothing, stay at home wife and although we all liked her, I think we politely ignored her because she always detached herself from us and played around with the kids and her husband was so larger than life he drowned her out - and us! One day I started talking to her and found she was actually very engaging and I couldnt stop conversing with her. She had a MBA and had a great professional life but gave it up to look after the kids. In one instant I had a glimpse of what it was like to be in her shoes, knowing she was smart but treated like the little woman. I asked her once if she would ever go back to her old profession. She said "No, it turns me into a bitch!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3462787118668544142.post-20394572991721341632009-05-15T16:13:00.000+01:002009-05-15T16:13:00.000+01:00Yes it,s true ,woman boss !! toe the line or else....Yes it,s true ,woman boss !! toe the line or else.---cottonreelcottonreelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05079291444036839673noreply@blogger.com